Autistic Rizz: The Sacred Charisma of Neurodivergent Souls
- Dr. Danielle Niaz, PhD – Founder & Lead Instructor
- Aug 7
- 3 min read
Updated: Aug 24
By Dr. Dani Niaz, PhD
Founder of NeuroNest Yoga, trauma-informed educator, grief ritualist, and unfiltered autistic being with executive dysfunction and sacred fire in equal measure.
✨ What the Hell Is “Autistic Rizz”?
Let’s start with the viral term.
“Rizz” is Gen Z slang for charm or charisma—short for “charisma” itself. It’s typically used to describe someone who’s got game, energy, flirt appeal, or just natural pull.
Now enter: autistic rizz—a phrase spreading through social spaces like TikTok, Twitter, and Reddit. It’s been affectionately (and sometimes awkwardly) referred to as “autrizzm” and is used to describe a unique form of accidental, authentic charm that many autistic folks radiate without meaning to.
“You’re so different… I’m drawn to you.”
“Yup. That’s the tism.”
We know the script. It’s not “game.” It’s just you being honest, passionate, raw, and unfiltered.
That’s autistic rizz.
Urban Dictionary calls it:
“The phenomenon where autistic people attract others due to their unique energy or quirks, even if they don’t follow typical social rules.” (Urban Dictionary)
Neurodivergent forums echo it:
You speak in direct lines, and people crave clarity.
You love weird shit deeply, and passion is magnetic.
You say the thing most people only dare think—and suddenly you’re the most real person in the room.
It’s not a performance.
It’s not curated.
And that’s what makes it irresistible.
🔄 But Here’s the Catch: The Double Empathy Problem
The trouble starts when neurotypical people get close to autistic people… and don’t know how to handle the difference.
Neurotypical folks often interpret autistic behavior as “off,” “cold,” or “too much.”
They misread your silence. They mislabel your eye contact. They confuse your passion for obsession or arrogance.
This is what social scientists call the Double Empathy Problem—a term coined by autistic researcher Damian Milton.
It’s not that autistic people lack empathy. It’s that neurotypical people struggle to empathize with autistic communication.
It’s a two-way disconnect—and it’s mutual.
🧠 Subconscious Abuse: When Curiosity Becomes Exploitation
A hard truth:
People who don’t have regular, respectful relationships with neurodivergent folks often become unintentional abusers.
They:
Project stereotypes
Infantilize or romanticize our “quirks”
Get emotionally dependent on our unfiltered support
Demand access to our insight while offering no support in return
We are mirrors—and some people fall in love with their reflection in us. Until they realize we’re not performing.
🪞Autistic Rizz Isn’t About Being Liked. It’s About Being
Real.
Your existence will attract people who say:
“You’re so different… I can’t stop thinking about you.”
But what they’re really saying is:
“I’m not used to truth. And it scares me that I want it.”
That’s not your burden. That’s their soul catching a glimpse of something raw and ancient and not yet safe in themselves.
You’re not a novelty. You’re a truth frequency.
You’re a living contradiction to curated culture.
🛡️ How to Protect Your Glow Up
If you’re autistic, ADHD, otherwise neurodivergent—and glowing up after grief or survival? Please protect your energy. You’re most magnetic when you’re most raw.
Here’s how:
Name your energy before others do (e.g., “It’s the tism, you’re welcome.”)
Set boundaries early—especially when someone says “You’re so different.”
Know the signs of emotional vampires in spiritual clothing
Own your truth online before anyone else can twist it
You don’t need to soften to be lovable.
You don’t need to explain to be safe.
You don’t need to mask to be enough.
💛 Closing: You’re Not Too Much. They’re Just Under-Exposed.
Your soul has lived many lives. And some people you meet are still brand new.
If they can’t hold what you carry, that doesn’t make you a burden. It makes you a threshold.
So let them be drawn. Let them be confused. Let them project.
You just keep being brilliant. Weird. Raw. Real.
And when they whisper “I don’t know why I’m so drawn to you…”
Just smile and say:
“That’s the tism.”
📝 Sources & Links:
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If this spoke to your soul and you’re ready to go deeper—whether you need a trauma-informed consult, a guided ritual, or a like-minded healing space—
join the Nest at www.neuronestyoga.com or follow us on TikTok + YouTube @NeuroNestYoga.
You don’t have to heal alone.
🕊️ The garden always glows.
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